The INFP

Temperament: Idealist.

INFP

INFP s are naturally Calm, Motivating, Bonding and Inspiring individuals. They bond with children more naturally than any other type which is where they best employ their extraordinary skills in nurturing and bringing out the best in others. INFP s are also the most idealistic of all types which is why they are generally optimistic about the future and believe that humans are here to make the world a better place, holding hands, one step at a time. With their strong personal value system and their beautiful view of the world and the people in it, INFP s are naturally drawn to studies and professions in the abstract and educational fields, such as philosophy, abstract art, poetry, higher education and child counselling. The INFP is the poster child for our ideal of the poet, without whom romance, fantasy and heroic piety would vanish from society.

Communication Style

INFP s communication is Subtle, Diplomatic, Abstract and Inquiring. They may at times be perceived as “shy” by others, but this is not generally true and only appears so because the INFP is more often interested in what others have to say and exploring new ideas together rather than telling others what they are supposed to do or believe. INFP s have a keen sense for both good and evil, and they naturally believe that if everyone just commits to good that we can overcome evil together and build a world that is beautiful and kind. They don’t naturally believe that there is one true answer for everything and use their diplomatic and calming skills to make people feel comfortable and optimistic about the future. Because of their Intuition they easily understand abstract models and ideas and are able to use beautifully poetic and symbolic language to communicate to others the beautiful ideas produced in their minds.

Learning Style

Because of their Introversion and Intuition, INFP s are usually good and dedicated students that are able to study a lot of material and perform well all the way through higher education. This can sometimes be problematic, because the topics and teaching style of primary and high school education doesn’t naturally fit the interests of the INFP who performs in school to please their teachers and parents at the expense of their own happiness. Luckily INFP s often develop a stronger self-interest in learning when they are allowed to choose their own subjects in college or university where they are prone to choose topics in the abstract, theoretical, philosophical, educational and humanitarian fields. They can absorb great amounts of theoretical and abstract information, which they like to discuss and philosophize about when talking to others. For these reasons educators should provide INFP s with good amounts of reading materials which they will study by themselves, but also organize discussion and brainstorming groups where all participants are encouraged to present and explore their ideas.

What goes on in your head

The INFP has an unusually rich inner life where they are concerned with the philosophical discussion of good versus evil. They themselves are always on the side of the good, although they can under some circumstances develop a fascination for evil, the obscure and obscene. For the INFP the world is a battleground for these forces and it is of ultimate importance that good will succeed. To know what is good and evil, the INFP s have a powerful Intuition and value system, which is constantly applied to the situations in the outside world. They themselves see the world through beautifully coloured glasses and simply see the good and love in everything. Sometimes however, life situations don’t conform to this view, which s when they use their value system to analyse or simply know what is good and what is bad. Because the INFP s are so inherently good however, they also bring up the understanding for Evil and see the good it may contain.

In Relationships

The INFP is highly principled, romantic and idealistic which is why they are on a lifelong quest for an intimate bond that transcends mortal life and lasts for eternity. Because of their need for intimate human interaction, they may at times also enter a relationship with lesser potential, but will easily leave once their soul mate and eternal love enters their life. They are very sensual types who draw happiness from the satisfaction of their partners, but because of their idealism may find it hard to leave or get over a bad relationship. Naturally the INFP is drawn to the bold, strong and strategic ENTJ who can become a powerful ally in the realization of the INFP s beautifully idealistic dreams. Because of their joint Intuitive qualities they can share their dreams of a better world and unify in a symbiotic bond of idealistic humanitarian drive and charismatic leadership.

Growing up

Childhood and early adulthood can be problematic for INFP s if the ideologies and interests of their parents and teachers don’t match those of the INFP . Because of their need for a harmonious environment they may often disregard their own interests in human interaction, romance and art (especially abstract art) for those of their parents, which may cause them a lot of unhappiness and depression. If the INFP has a more supportive and nurturing environment, he/she is bound to become an extraordinarily kind child that is a pillar of strength, conviction and positive guidance for their friends and everyone that’s around them. Either way, INFP ’ usually make very good children that respect their parents and perform well in school. They are prone to become more independent as they grow older and usually find their way into the Arts, humanities, literature or pedagogy.

Strengths

 Immense capability for kindness and care

 Natural understanding and connection with children

 Altruistic and able to Nurture Others Strengths

 Very Creative, Poetic and Abstract

 Optimistic, Diplomatic, Charming and easy going

Weaknesses

 Somewhat conflict avoidant

 May be oversensitive to criticism

 May waste their potential because they don’t voice their opinions enough

 At times Unrealistic or even oblivious to their environment

 May have unreasonable expectations of life and others

How others should deal with this type

The most important thing when dealing with an INFP is to notice their strong dislike of conflict. When sensing a stressful or aggressive environment, the INFP will simply turn inwards or walk away from such situations all together. Therefore, to harness the INFP s insights and great nurturing abilities it is essential to avoid direct criticism and produce arguments in form of constructive discussion. When the INFP needs to be criticized, this should be introduced with a compliment and followed by a suggestion for change rather than actual criticism. With time to reflect any INFP will include such suggestions into their reasoning and will happily accept to change for the better. If these simple steps are followed, the INFP will have greatly harmonizing, nurturing and creative effects on their environment.

How you should deal with others

As an INFP it is important to be aware of your own idealism and conflict aversion. Not all personality types have beliefs as strong as yours nor understand your strong convictions. They do not see the world as optimistically as you do and thus it isn’t natural for them to assume that everybody is trying to achieve the same goals. For these reasons it makes sense for other types to be more skeptical about human motivations and more readily criticise and distrust. Especially when interacting with a Judger, you should try to accept their opinions and criticism more openly and try to assess the merits of their argument. If this is difficult for you to do initially, you can try and take a step back during an argument to think about what the other person is saying in private.