The ESFP

Temperament: Artisan.

ESFP

ESFP s are very sociable, kind, cheering and funny individuals. As they have a natural ability to make people laugh, they are also very gifted artists who easily recognize things of high aesthetic value, be it a painting, scenery, food, music or something else entirely. ESFP s have a gift in making people feel happy and making their lives more enjoyable, which is why everyone loves to be around them. This makes ESFP s great performers, but as happy faces is a skill needed so much in every aspect of life, they often excel at many occupation which includes dealing with people and because of their eye for beauty they also make great designers. The ESFP is the poster child for our ideal of the performer, without whom joy, laughter, aesthetics and selfless spoils would vanish from society.

Communication Style

ESFP s love to be around people and always have something funny to say or do. They use their whole body to communicate and are always smiling, joking or striking a funny pose. They don’t like it when a situation becomes too serious and prefer happy fun times, which is when they are at their best, although they can become obviously annoyed and even angry if someone seriously violates their value system. If that happens, the ESFP can turn very unforgiving and avoidant of that person. However, most of the times the ESFP just wants the people around them to be happy and laughing and they usually won’t hesitate to do something silly if it puts a smile on people’s faces. The ESFP is also the most witty of all types when it comes to wordplay. They are very adept at taking a dull or common statement and flipping it around to make it funny.

Learning Style

ESFP s live life in the moment which means that they are very adaptable, but dislike the study of abstract materials which don’t have immediate application. If they can learn by doing however, they become very fast at picking up new knowledge of any sorts. As Extraverts, they learn better in groups, where they can discuss their insights with others and work in a team, even though they might need some extra attention when dealing with theoretically complicated issues. The ESFP can also develop strong self interest for learning new skills through pure fascination. If they see something they admire they become mesmerized and can suddenly put in countless hours into studying which is usually only seen in Introverts. However, most topics that will capture the ESFP s interest in such a way are likely to be in the arts, through beautiful paintings, music or acting.

What goes on in your head

Even though ESFP s present an extraordinarily happy face to the environment, they are often more serious and concerned when they are by themselves. If all is well, ESFP s use their alone time to rejoice in the memories of their experiences and think about all the new and exciting places they want to visit. If things are difficult however, the ESFP spends a lot of time assessing their lives, what they did wrong and where they’ve been wronged. Since they are somewhat conflict avoidant, they will often prefer to simply avoid bad situations or try changing themselves to better suit their environment. They are deeply affected by stressful situations, which take a long time for them to process. Much rather they would like to go out again and rejoin the action shining.

In Relationships

In their younger years, ESFP s are somewhat torn in their relationships, because they are both interested in what the world has to offer and want to experience as many human relationships and flirts as possible but also have a very strong value system which usually tells them that they ought to be faithful. Because of this conflict, ESFP s may change relationships frequently, but are loyal when they are in one. As strongly principled beings, the ideal of a lasting and faithful relationship can overweight the desire for experience and have the ESFP committed to a single, long-term relationship, although this does not necessarily satisfy the ESFP . As they get older, their need for new experiences calms and the ESFP will happily and satisfyingly engage in a faithful and long-term commitment. The natural match for the ESFP is the ISTJ which provides the ESFP with the security, stability and organization needed to support the ESFP s carefree and social quest for laughs and happiness in return for some much needed time off their serious heads.

Growing up

Growing up, ESFP s primarily seek to be around people, meet and make new friends. They are inherently funny and find it very easy to make new friends, as others generally enjoy being around them. In school they might face some problems, as parents and teachers expect things of them which to the ESFP seems boring and far fetched. Because of their strengths, ESFP children are more prone to excel in the performing arts and often have difficulties with subjects such as math or physics. To boost the ESFP s performance in school, parents and teachers can dedicate extra attention explaining how study materials relate to real life and come up with fun group activities to supplement their studies. Wanting to be good children, the ESFP will often forgo their own interests trying to please their parents and teachers, however, as they get older and gain their independence they are likely to follow their calling to travel the world, taste good food and meeting new people.

Strengths

 Cheering and Benevolent

 Witty and Funny

 Warm and Generous

 Artistic and Entertaining

 Sensuous and Adaptable

Weaknesses

 May be ignorant of others true feelings and values

 May become disabled in difficult circumstances

 May lack seriousness and a sense of planning and anticipation

 May be overly simplistic or gullible

 May develop feelings of dark emotions, general resentment and paranoia

How others should deal with this type

People dealing with an ESFP should be aware that there’s not much the ESFP would sacrifice the happiness of the people around them for, no matter how important you might think it is. After all, what good is a productive life if no one is enjoying it? Therefore, when you want to discuss more serious matters with an ESFP it can be very helpful to quickly explain why something is important for before entering a discussion. In turn, when an ESFP is down, they can get too caught up in the seriousness of a situation, dwell on things in their heads and even become resentful of their environment. In such cases you can support the ESFP by taking them out with their friends, where they quickly regain their cheering self, charge renewed energy to deal with their issues and most importantly, include the inputs of the people around them.

How you should deal with others

As an ESFP you should be aware that many other people can only be happy and truly enjoy the moment once they think that work is done and all necessities are met. This is why they can often get annoyed or irritated by people who try to make things more cheerful, especially if they regard the situation as work. To avoid misunderstandings and unnecessary tension you can try to recognize when people around you become agitated and confront them about their feelings. Most people develop such emotions because they believe that others aren’t as serious as them or do not have a plan. If you explain to them however that it is important to you that people remain happy at work, that you believe this makes everyone more productive and if you allow others to discuss schedules, priorities and assignments with you, these misunderstandings can easily be settled and all types can clear their conscious. After all, some structure, guidance and the occasional deadline may prove productive for your activities as well.